Mothers and working

This week we talked about mothers and working outside the home and the effects that has on children. This is one that was particularly meaningful to me since that was for a time my situation in life. when a mother leaves the home to go work it can have a major impact on the children negatively. among the things missed are the time that children get to spend with their mom after they get home from school where they have the opportunity to learn or talk or whatever the case may be. it provides a security for children that strengthens their confidence and helps them feel emotionally more sound. when that is taken away children have to learn how to fend for themselves during that time and they have less guidance from their parents. they feel a deficit in their confidence and security and frequently get into moral and legal trouble. my advocation is that staying home is a more important occupation for a mother than any other. the consequences are enormous.

This week we discussed communication. this was particularly fascinating to me since I have wondered and thought about this subject for a long time. How is it that so many people communicate ineffectively? I have realized from my life that the majority of problems I am aware of or the perpetuation of problems occurs because people do not know how to communicate. too often we think that others are inherently gifted to read into the signals we give. the fact of the matter is that unless you are highly gifted in comprehending the human mind, the hints and such that people give are highly ambiguous and may easily, and frequently are, misinterpreted. the solution to this is clear. we must be unequivocally clear in the messages we give to people. we should be tactful, but we should be frank and honest. Any other course will likely lead to confusion, tension and possible alienation of the individuals associated.

This week we discussed when crisis hits a family. it is interesting to me in reflection upon the responses of my own family to crisis. in particular I am interested by the fact that there is a choice in the matter for a family to pull together or to draw apart. this is simply what will make the difference deciding long before a crisis comes what your response will be to any crisis. the answer to that question can and should always be we will trust in god and cling to one another. this should be reaffirmed frequently and then especially once a crisis comes.